Help Wanted

Advice Needed.

I may have mentioned that I'm having a lot of difficulty working with my co-worker. We'll call her DPH (Dirty Pirate Hooker). This week I was co-delivering a team building session. The following are some of the things I experienced:

• Slightly veiled arrows thrown my way (I've had 30 years of experience - I'm barely 30, so who do you think that was directed at?)
• Deliberately left out of needs assessment and pre-facilitation meetings.
• When I found out about the meetings, I told her I expected to be included and asked when the next one was - nothing.
• Deliberate withholding the feedback forms (which I developed) for me to review.
  
• When I finally was able to review them (I had to demand them) she told me she was going to review them with the two Senior Managers and share the feedback and observations. I told her that I should be included in this and asked when she planned to do it. She refused to answer. I thought maybe I may have had an email invitation for a time to do this, but nothing.

So I'm looking for advice. This is the same co-worker who has called me ignorant. She is the one who told me I was playing games and undermining her. She has insulted me and spoken to me in a demeaning manner.

But wait, there's more. My boss knows about all this & has her hands tied. DPH's husband in a VP in our company. Our President was called by DPH's Husband before she got her performance review (which was BAD) to tell him how great she is. So even though she sucks, she's protected.

If you have any advice or feedback on how to work with her, I would so appreciate it. I'm slowly getting to the point where I don't know if I can continue to work with her. Yet, I don't want to tell my boss that I "can't work with DPH". How would that look on me? I'm frustrated & upset because I've never been personally attacked in my workplace. I'm at a point where I dread working with her. My shoulders are always tense, I'm starting to get regular headaches.

Help Wanted.

Friday Wrap Up

I have been given a few very sweet awards lately & I feel awful that I have not written about them. I'm ashamed to admit that I can't remember who gave them to me or what they were for.

*hangs head in shame*

I'll do better if anyone gives me any more. Pinkie swear.

For a Friday wrap up, I have to share a few things that happened this week.

Big Ticket #1
Remember my co-worker who told me that since I smiled a lot that I was crazy? Well, this week she topped herself. She told me that I'd obviously never worked as anything more than an individual contributor. She also told me that I "didn't get it" either because:

1. I am ignorant
2. I'm playing games to "win the day"

Wow. Doesn't get much better than that. So much for good work relationships with team members. THAT particular goal for 2009 went right down the toilet with those comments.

Big Ticket #2
I hit an all time low in my feelings about myself & my weight. I told Mr. Potts that I didn't want to go & celebrate someone's birthday because I didn't want to be around anyone I knew in a bathing suit. Yes, I went there. I almost let this feeling overwhelm me & intrude on our lives.

I recently began weaning myself from medication which I was told has most likely contributed to a lot of my weight gain. And I've been working out really hard & watching not only what I eat, but how much I eat. I know that I won't see immediate results, but the amount of weight I gained is just ridiculous. So instead of eating these, I'm instead, just looking at the pictures online. Where I can't actually buy one.And I visit Kimmie over at Full Circle. She highlights cupcakes every Sunday. That's a rough one!

So I snapped out of that funk - no way am I going to let this affect what I do - and have been working out even harder & eating even better.

I have read the research that indicates that stress can sometimes contribute to not just weight gain, but also the inability to lose weight.

*Note to self: Must get rid of co-worker*
*Note to self: Not realistic*

Hope you all are having a wonderful Friday & are ready for a long weekend!
If you haven't already, don't forget to enter my giveaway (you can do that by going here). The deadline is tonight at midnight.