Thursday, July 15, 2010

Help Wanted: Mother-in-Law Advice Needed

Remember the beach picture from yesterday?

I'm so ready to dip my toes in the water. Actually, I'm ready to dive headfirst through a wave and try to keep my bikini on since sometimes doing that can cause it to get sucked into the surf.

I digress.

While I'm looking forward to the vacation, the beach and the time with Mr. Potts, I'm getting stressed out over spending that much time with his mother. Last year about the same time we spent a week with his mom and step dad in the Outer Banks. The recap you can read here.

While it was pretty and we had a nice time, it was stressful for me.

With the family arriving today and heading to the beach tomorrow (we're going tomorrow after work) we'll be spending 5 days with them.

While 5 days is not a full week, it is still a bit much for me. So I may just be a bit stressed out. And remember, I'm a worrier, so I may be working myself up over nothing.

I'm trying the calming breaths already, but I don't think it is working.

I had a snack-size bag of Lays and an iced honey bun yesterday.

So in order to fit into my clothes when we come back (I'm an eater - I eat when I'm stressed and as you can see, I don't make the best choices), any words of wisdom on how to deal with a mother in law who stresses you out or just totally ignores you?


d.a.r. said...

Oh geeze. My MIL and I have had our ups and downs {she thought she was the only woman who should ever be in Z's was brutal for a while} but now we are really close. It is my own mother that I want to strangle on a nearly weekly basis. My best advice is to ignore her antics and enjoy your vacation. Find a great book and curl up on the beach. Go for a walk/run. Plan something for just you and the hubby and get away from the fam for a bit, even if it is just lunch. Let her be a bitch, it doesn't mean you have to let it rain on your parade.

Easier said than done, right?

Best of luck...hang in there! Mama drama is the worst!

Miss Southern Vol said...

Ahhh what a post I can relate too. MIL can been difficult at times. My MIL became a HUGE dilema when we started planning the wedding. She wanted to have her two sense into EVERYTHING and it was driving me AND my family crazy!! She would often talk about things she had no business doing and it was hard to bite your tongue. I FINALLY had to have a talk with the mister and just say LOOK you have to handle this, you have to keep her off my back or I'm going to go crazy! Maybe if you just try to very bluntly but nicely explain to the MR that you can't and dont want to deal with the BS so he needs to run radar it might help!? I could go on and on! Good luck! I cant wait to see how it goes!

Traci said...

Just compliment her fairly regularly, take a good book, don't worry about it and enjoy the vacation- if she ignores you so be it- at least it will be quiet. :)

KatiePerk said...

Don't fret pet. I love the idea of D.A.R to plan an outing just for you and the husband. Enjoy yourself and try not to let her get to you. Easier said than done but seriously focus on your book, your tan and having fun.

Ashley @ KiwisandCocktails said...

GOOD LUCK! No advice. I dont have a real MIL since Andrew's mom passed away before i met her, but his dad's new wife is who I call MIL now, and she lives on the other side of the world! Our once a year visits are JUST fine...well, maybe I went a TINY bit crazy lady when they stayed with us at our house for 11 days in January! But overall, I enjoy her!
JUST ignore yours if she gives you any trouble! :)

Caroline said...

This is so hard. My MIL is the nicest person in the world. In fact, she's too nice, like overly disgusting nice. It kills me. I tune her out some and let Fred talk to her. It's really my father-in-law that I despise. He's an ass. I am nice, but I keep it short and sweet. Just ignore her and enjoy youself. Distance yourself, but be nice when she's around. Hope all goes well.

bananas. said...

i love my "in-laws" but sometimes it gets to be a little much. we went to hawaii with them and THANK GAWWWDDD they left early. i was 'bout ready to walk in the ocean and never walk out. lol.

good luck! try not to stress/eat too much!

MCW said...

I don't have in-laws. So no advice. Just take lots of LONG walks :)

Brittany Ann said...

Plan things each day for just you and the Mr. That way, you know you'll have at least a small escape each day. And have the Mr. explain the importance to your parents.

You need it, and it will give you something to look forward to and someplace to vent if you need to.

Anonymous said...

All of the aforementioned advice sounds good to me. What I do? Smile and nod, baby, smile and nod. I generally have nothing nice to say and smile and nod has worked well for me in recent years.

It also helps that Dimples is not a fan of his mother and we bond every night before bed when we're around his parents and bitch together, vent, get it out, laugh at the whole situation, snuggle, and then go to sleep!

Meagan@Megs7827 said...

I like the advice already given. Bring a book, go on walks. I spent three hours yesterday staring down at the table or anyone but my future sil. She is a total drama queen. If someone doesn't listen to her whole stupid story she will go pout in the other room. If she starts drinking, she starts yelling. So I just keep quiet until she leaves!

Lil' Woman said...

I don't think I could give any better advice then the ones above, but I wish you luck anyhow! :)

Samantha said...

Agreed with all the advice...especially the smile and nod part. I don't have a crazy MIL, but I do have a crazy SIL and in the end, it's all in-laws.